Betty and Doniese

Family Life Instructors at Avera McKennan

Doniese Wilcox:

As a child development and family relations major at South Dakota State University, I knew I wanted to work in the childcare education field after my first human development course. And now I have been working with children and families in various settings ranging from preschool to parent education for more than 35 years. I love my job as a Certified Family Life Instructor at Avera McKennan because I have the opportunity to work with both children and adults in diverse situations. Some days I might be teaching babysitting courses and others I might be presenting a puppet show to children to educate them on burns. Every day is different and I love that.

My husband and I have three grown daughters and we are the proud grandparents to two young grandsons. In my spare time I enjoy reading, baking, sewing, traveling and relaxing with our family cat, Callie.

Betty Barto-Smith:

I believe that parents are a child’s first and most important teachers, so I am happy to be providing knowledge as a Certified Family Life Educator at Avera McKennan. With a BSN from the University of Texas at Arlington and graduate work in human development at SDSU, I have been working in parent/family education for more than 20 years. Having children of my own really helped me see how important the first years are in a child’s development and how choices parents make can direct their child’s behavior. I love helping parents understand ways to encourage their child’s growth and development.

I have three grown sons and one grand-dog, a black lab, and she and I are best buds. In my spare time I enjoy bicycling, reading and cooking.

Author Archive | Betty and Doniese

Hot Topics for Parents: Teaching Consequences

Ten-year-old Allie repeatedly leaves her bike outside at night or drops it in the driveway behind her dad’s car. Her parents are frustrated with this behavior. The expensive bike could easily be stolen or could be ruined if her dad backs out of the garage and doesn’t see it. Read More »

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Hot Topics for Parents: Teaching Feelings

Children have strong feelings. Sometimes they express them strongly, as well.
Four-year-old Matthew was being led to the time out chair by his teacher. He yelled at her, “I hate you! I hate your guts! I would like to take a scissors and cut you in pieces and flush you down the toilet!” Many adults would be shocked by this verbal outburst of feelings. Read More »

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Overindulgence in Children: Soft Structure

Our last blog talked about over-nurturing, the second of the three categories of overindulgence in children from the book “How Much is Enough: Overindulgence in Children” by Jean Clarke, Connie Dawson and David Bredehoft.
Today we will talk about the final category—soft structure. Read More »

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Overindulgence in Children: Over-Nurturing

Our first blog on overindulgence talked about too much “stuff.” Based on the book “How Much is Enough: Overindulgence in Children” by Jean Clarke, Connie Dawson and David Bredehoft, the blog talked about kids who have too many things and have too much money spent on them. Read More »

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Overindulgence in Children: Too Much Stuff

Do you ever stop and think about how much “stuff” your kids or grandkids have today compared to when you were a child? A new term that has surfaced in child development recently is “overindulgence,” which means “excessive” or “too much.”
A book we have been recommending is How Much is Enough: Overindulgence in Children by Jean Clarke, Connie Dawson and David Bredehoft.  Read More »

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Hot Topics for Parents: Praise and Encouragement, Part 2

In our last blog, we defined praise and encouragement. Now, let’s see how encouragement looks in actual practice.
Encouragement has several steps:

Listen to yourself or to your body.
Look at past successes.
Break tasks into small parts.
Give a positive message for the future. Read More »

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